PAUSE (Pt. 2)

In my years of ministry as a pastor, some of the most important things I was a part of were meetings about the Bride of Christ. Working with committees, teams, staff, deacons to determine God’s will for the situation strongly influences the future of churches. Taking the time to Pause and follow God’s plan is so important. Yet as leaders in the church, many times we just show up with no prayer, no plan, no forethought before the meeting. We must do better.

In Discovering Relational Wisdom 3.0 by Ken Sande, he gives a strong acrostic called PAUSE. Here is a quick recap of the first three steps:

The first thing is to Prepare: We prepare and spend adequate time on studying for a message. Meetings also deserve preparation.

The second thing is to Affirm Relationships: John 17 includes Jesus praying for us to have unity so that the world will know that Jesus is Lord. Meetings are important to show respect and affirm relationships. Even if someone disagrees with you, one can show respect and concern. Romans 12:18 says as much as it depends on me, live in peace with all people.

The third thing is to Understand Interests. The other people in the meeting are also believers in Jesus Christ, they also care for their church, and quite often they want Gods will. We are hopeful they will agree with us, but sometimes they don’t. Sometimes they have better ideas than us, or they see something in a different way.
After these three that we talked about last time, the next letter of pause is S. SEARCH FOR CREATIVE SOLUTIONS.

If we really want to work with other people, we must together search for creative solutions. 1 Corinthians 12 emphasizes the Body of Christ working together, and this should occur in this situation.
James shares that if anyone lacks wisdom he should ask from God, who gives generously to all without finding fault. We should be people of prayer to ask him to give us beautiful solutions.

The statement that there are no dumb solutions should be employed. The Holy spirit will eliminate, add, put together and tear apart ideas to come up with beautiful solutions. Be people of faith to come up with beautiful solutions.

It is easy to like your own ideas while not giving others’ ideas even a thought. It is good to remember to listen twice as much as we talk. Two ears and one mouth are not by accident.

The final letter in Pause is E which stands for Evaluate options objectively and reasonably. Be fair to evaluate the good and bad in all without preconceived ideas. Don’t argue but instead speak the truth in love. If one part of the body does not support and work with the other part of the body, soon the body will break down.

Meetings can be some of the most important parts in the history of the church. Yet many times we take it another way and hardly prepare in any way. But when we are willing to be prepared and willing to work together in seeking the will of God, beautiful things can happen. So Pause, take a breath, and give God the glory!

Griff Henderson is the Northwest Regional Ministry Partner for Oklahoma Baptists.

He can be reached at

Similar Posts

Things a Pastor Should Think About When Making a Nursing Home Visit

Both of my grandmothers spent a few years in nursing homes during their final years on earth. During part of that time I served as the interim pastor in the town where they stayed. I visited them routinely, and came to realize how significant such visits were. One of...

How to READ Your Emotions

One of the most important things we did as young children was learning to read. We would be severely handicapped if we had never learned to read.  So many things we enjoy doing today we would not be able to do if we had not learned to read words.  Think about it. In...

Rescuing the Old Testament from Children’s Ministry

We southern Baptist preachers often either avoid the Old Testament or relegate it to the kid’s ministry. As the professor of Old Testament at Your Oklahoma Baptist University, I engage with students who have an Old Testament knowledge that is severely lacking the “so...

God Designed Your Emotions to Move Your Relationships

Like a locomotive barreling down the tracks, emotions often fuel the motion and direction of pastoral relationships. While many will want to exchange any emotional drive for a perceived healthier “rational approach,” God designed every human with emotions. How you, as...

Working with the Minister of Music to Create Powerful Worship

Worship is a vital part of any effective ministry. The relationship between pastor and minister of music is key to consistently presenting powerful sermons with music and praise that compliments and supports the pastor’s message. The pastor and minister of music need...

Using Emotions Wisely in Pastoral Ministry

In the last article, I began an examination of 8 essentials of core human emotions to harness their energy in practicing relational wisdom. There, we saw God’s design in our emotions, their complexity, and how they can drive our behaviors. Let’s turn our attention to...

Pastors leading the church to be involved in Missions

More than Mission Minded, more than supportive of Missions, Jesus said to the early church leaders, “GO make disciples of all nation…” Mt.28:19. Most Pastors I know do encourage the church to pray and give towards missions. Putting our spiritual “boots on the ground”...

What Pastors Need to Know About Grief

What Pastors Need to Know About Grief In March of 2004 my wife of 27 years and 18-year-old daughter were killed in a car wreck on the Indian Nations Turnpike in Oklahoma.  By that time in my ministry as a pastor I had done dozens of funerals.  But I had no idea about...


     Our practice for forgiveness to others reflects what we think and understand about God’s forgiveness.  When you get to the heart of the Gospel it is all about forgiveness. Because of Jesus sacrifice and death on the cross we can be forgiven when we accept Him as...

Revitalizing Children’s Ministry

Children’s ministry looks different than it did a decade ago. The strategies we should be using today are not the same as they were at the turn of the century. Recent studies show that anywhere between 58% and 67% of Christian parents today choose a church with their kids in mind.