When I was a psychology student at Oklahoma Baptist University, we learned about “life change units” (where diverse life experiences are assigned numerical values in accordance with their stress-generating potential). We discussed the taxing strain that facing too...
It’s funny how I think and process life differently from my husband. He’s very systematic, linear, and one compartment at a time. On the other hand, I am like a plate of spaghetti… this-and-that with everything twisted and connecting. It sounds...
Many years ago as a young pastor’s wife, I remember asking my mom how I could get a better grip on my emotions. I felt like my heart and thoughts were all over the place, and it was driving me crazy! She walked over to her bookshelf, pulled out a book, flipped it...
Ugh. I messed up again. I’m a terrible ministry wife. One of the most oppressive emotions for me in ministry is shame. It doesn’t take much to feel like I’ve failed miserably…again: I should have stayed 30 more minutes to talk with that person. I shouldn’t have...
Emotional health seems like a lofty dream to me. I’ve felt way UNDER-qualified to have this conversation because my emotions are all over the place. But here’s what I’ve come to realize: emotions are NOT bad. It’s what I do with them that can get me a...
We’ve been talking about HEALTHINESS as a ministry wife. It’s so important to be healthy women, mothers, daughters, sisters, friends, ministry wives…all the things. For those who are new here, we are talking HEALTH in 5 bite-sized pieces (called markers):...
Have you ever heard: You just need to REST! I have. So many times. I’ve even bossed myself. Have you ever wondered: HOW DO I rest when my life won’t and can’t stop? Life is busy. As wives, mothers, sisters, daughters, neighbors, leaders, and ministry...
The struggle is real! Most days, I struggle to: parent, lead, surrender, trust, minister, spend daily time with Jesus, be kind, make wise decisions, not gossip, have a positive attitude, be thankful, obey… I used to shame myself for struggling. I measured my...
So often, the success of my day is determined by the boxes I check off on my to-do list. There’s such sweet victory in marking two simple lines the meet in a “v.” Laundry – check. Dust – check. Schedule a lunch – check. Clean out...
I have to confess. I love Jesus. I’ve loved him for most of my life. I serve him. I tell other people about him. But for me, spending daily time with him is a challenge. For the last 2 weeks, I haven’t spent time with him. I have felt like such a failure...
