7 A’s of Confession

Living at peace with God, ourselves, and others is essential for our witness for Christ.  Everything God does He does in love. He is always working things out for the good.  Even in the midst of conflict, if we allow Him to, He will work things out for our good.  Acts 2:23 reminds us that God is always in control.  That verse says, “this Jesus delivered up according to the definite plan and foreknowledge of God, you crucified and killed by the hands of lawless men.”  Through the death of His Son Jesus, He worked out our salvation.

     To be able to live at peace with God, ourselves, and others we must learn and practice the discipline of confession.  Confession brings freedom.  Confession gives us hope that broken relationships can be healed and restored.  Confession must always be sincere and from the heart.  It is important to remember that we are sinful and through Christ’s death on the cross we have been forgiven.

     For most of us, confession of our sin is a daily practice.  Palm 139:23-24 should be our daily prayers.  “Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts.  See if there is any offensive way in me and lead me in the way everlasting.”  It is important to examine ourselves honestly and confess our sins when we are wrong.  Confession is not always easy, but it can bring freedom and help us to be reconciled to others.

     Ken Sande has put together the 7 A’s of confession.  You can use them as a checklist for making good confessions, ones that are both freeing and reconciling.  Confession that is Godly can transform our heart and lead to a change in our behavior.  Here are the 7 A’s:

  1. Address everyone involved that has been affected by your sin or with whom you need to be reconciled.
  2. Avoid if, but, and maybe.  In other words, don’t make excuses for your behavior or what you have done.
  3. Admit specific actions and attitudes that have caused you to sin or led to the broken relationship.
  4. Acknowledge the hurt you have caused by expressing sorrow to the person you have hurt.
  5. Accept the consequences of your actions.  Do what you can to make things right.
  6. Alter your behavior.  In other words, change your attitudes and actions. Have a plan of repentance that leads to change.
  7. Ask for forgiveness and allow time.  At this point you turn everything over to the other person and it may take time for them to accept your forgiveness so that reconciliation can take place.

Finally, don’t confess just to make yourself feel better.  Always do it to glorify God, to minister to others, to bring healing to others, and to comfort those you have wronged.  As a result, you will find freedom.  Proverbs 28:13, “He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy.”

 Buddy Hunt is the East Regional Ministry Partner for Oklahoma Baptists. He can be reached at bhunt@oklahomabaptists.org.

Similar Posts

God Designed Your Emotions to Move Your Relationships

Like a locomotive barreling down the tracks, emotions often fuel the motion and direction of pastoral relationships. While many will want to exchange any emotional drive for a perceived healthier “rational approach,” God designed every human with emotions. How you, as...

Engaging with Oklahoma Baptist Homes for Children

By James Swain, President of Oklahoma Baptist Homes for Children When I started to write this article, I realized that I have been President of Oklahoma Baptist Homes for Children (OBHC) for 50 days.  In these first 50 days, I have been affirmed in the fact that God...

Making the Transition to a New Pastorate

I was the pastor of Crossroads Baptist Church in Beggs, Oklahoma for four and a half years. The church loved us and we loved them. I genuinely expected to stay there for many years. There were no major issues, at least not that I knew of, and the church was growing...

10 Things I didn’t know that I didn’t know about moving from Student Ministry to being a Pastor

I’m sure my context is different than others after serving in student Ministry for just shy of 25 years. I felt God’s call to be a pastor and have served in that role for more than a year.

How to Handle a Property Accident at the Church

“There’s been an explosion at the church!” Seminary prepares a pastor for many things, but no class, lecture, or seminar prepared me to handle the damage done to our church building when a compressed natural gas tank torpedoed through it, leaving over a hundred...

First Steps to Developing a Safety Ministry for Your Church

Developing a safety ministry can be a daunting task. The tendency will be toward buying a prepackaged plan with ready-made policies and procedures. My advice is to do the long hard work and put together a plan that considers your specific context.

Stewardship Matters

In the mid-’90s, Paul Powell of the Annuity Board of the Southern Baptist Convention wrote a book titled “Taking the Stew Out of Stewardship.” While the book was well circulated, many pastors still find themselves in a “stew” regarding teaching and preaching about...

Preaching the Gospel through all elements of the Worship Service

Seeking to ensure our worship services bring glory to the Lord and impact those gathered can feel daunting.  Though not exhaustive, here are six ways to transform our public worship experience by seizing every element for the glory of Christ: Revelation &...

Pastors leading the church to be involved in Missions

More than Mission Minded, more than supportive of Missions, Jesus said to the early church leaders, “GO make disciples of all nation…” Mt.28:19. Most Pastors I know do encourage the church to pray and give towards missions. Putting our spiritual “boots on the ground”...

How Your Association Benefits Pastors and the Local Church

There are many ways the association can assist you as a pastor as well as your congregation. Here are eight things I will briefly mention Fellowship. A setting is provided whereby people of like faith and beliefs can come together for a time of sharing and...